Presents For Shaming

After a certain age, varying between about twelve to eighteen, parents’ birthday and holiday-season presents to their offspring cease to be about giving them things that they might like, and instead focus on symbolic reproaches, correction and shaming into desired behaviour. Such presents should be either something the children will obviously not want, so that the parents can enjoy the sensations of righteous indignation at their ingratitude, or else something concerned with parents’ ambitions for what the youngster should do or become. For example, if the offspring lives alone and happily eats out, but the parents like to cook, they should buy him pots and pans. If, on the other hand, he likes to cook, but not to read, they should buy him books.

Posted on January 10, 2010 at 12:07 by Hugo Grinebiter · Permalink

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