The Guilt-Trip Defence

The trick whereby any criticism of a person’s actions is transformed into a reproach of the critic for making the perpetrator feel “guilty” is by no means unique to victim-feminists, but is used by them more than anyone else. This is because it has somehow become a received truth that women exist in a continuous ferment of quite unjustified guilt. There is no particular reason to believe that this is truly so, rather than being a tactical manoeuvre.

Whenever you suggest that a particular woman’s actions are regrettable, she therefore enjoys the option of bursting into tears and saying that you have made her feel so guilty; all the other women in the vicinity now come running, and (whether or not they know her) angrily inform you that she already had such a huge burden of guilt from before, simply from being a woman, and now you are the straw that has broken the camel’s back. As a result of all this turmoil, the topic of discussion has now most satisfactorily been moved from what she originally did to what you have done. Game over.

The classic example of this is when someone comments on the damage a woman is doing to her foetus by smoking when pregnant, or to her child by blowing smoke in its face all day. He will be roundly abused for making this woman feel guilty. Feel guilty for what? For poisoning her child? Well, then so she ought. The ideal situation appears to be that her guilt at doing a bad thing should be intense enough to prevent her from being reproached for doing that bad thing, without ever becoming so intense as to make her stop doing it.

That women suffer from a chronic guilt that does not afflict men is not, however, susceptible of any kind of objective demonstration and is obviously self-serving. It does not seem to occur to anyone to use the Cui bono? argument on the underlying idea, and ask whether the claim to be constantly on the edge of a guilt-breakdown rests on anything more than a massive scam. For, although women use the “How dare you make me feel even more guilty?” ploy not only on men but also on one another, they have at the same time an interest in not publicly blowing their collective cover, since the victim of another woman’s last-straw guilt ploy today might want to use it on her husband tomorrow. Men say nothing, fearing to be held responsible for the original camel-load of guilt.

Can men deploy this defence? Silly question. All male guilt is deserved, and so there is no right not to be made to feel it or not to be reproached for any action.

Posted on September 15, 2013 at 10:19 by Hugo Grinebiter · Permalink

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