The Sole Permitted Conceptual Paradigm

According to the standard mythology of commercial sex, the customer is a stalker, a sadist, even a serial murderer. That is, his taste is held to be not for women’s beauty but for their powerlessness. It is axiomatic that he wishes to harm them, or at least to humiliate them, to glory in his power. People who have never knowingly met a customer seem nevertheless quite certain that he cannot function with a woman unless he holds power over her; meeting her as an equal, runs the dogma, he would be terrified into impotence. It ought to follow from this that the customer would have great difficulty dealing with women as equals elsewhere; but the ideologues would never dream of asking one whether this is actually the case, or even watching him, when they can tell him instead. Why should they go to the trouble of acquiring any information about this man when they were all born knowing exactly what all men are like? The reason why they believe that all or most customers are violent or hate-filled abusers is that they wish to believe this. It justifies their own hatreds.

There certainly exist prostitutes who are powerless in the hands of violent pimps, exploitative madams and international traffickers. The media naturally find these more exciting than the single mothers, moonlighting nurses and students putting themselves through college. The madam who is pleasant to her employees is also deemed to be of no public interest. Everywhere in the real world there are discreet arrangements to have abusive customers forcibly removed. There are also well-run houses where the girls are sub-contractors, free to refuse clients they don’t like, and collectives of working girls. Dogmatists may pronounce ex cathedra that customers prefer to visit the terrified and miserable slaves rather than the girls who have answered the Situations Vacant advertisements for sex work in the daily newspaper, but this is not evidence, merely a misandric a priori assumption.

It is also worth noting that many customers are regulars, with a particular woman or at a particular establishment. Some go to the same provider once a week for years. We may then ask how likely it is that the relationship is an essentially hostile one. Like any other businessperson, prostitutes come in two variants: those who cultivate repeat custom and those who assume that there will always be enough first-timers to rip off. It seems that the ideologues have trouble with the first concept, which is no doubt why they are mostly in public-sector employment rather than business.

Posted on February 29, 2012 at 10:31 by Hugo Grinebiter · Permalink
In: THE NAME OF THE GAME, Notes From Underground

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