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Sex, Love And The Uglies
When people want to unite sex and love more closely than they are found in nature, they say high-minded things like “sex is the chief expression of love”. Love, they say, is an affair of the soul, it is spiritual and transcendent, whatever that is supposed to mean. If that is so, however, why is […]
In: BEAUTY AND THE BEAST, Love Among The Uglies
String Them Up!
The response to a beautiful person who wants love and sex is sympathy, to varying degrees depending upon licitness and consequence. But the response to an ugly person who wants love and sex is disgust and indignation. So fierce can this reaction be, that one wonders if people feel in some way threatened by these […]
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Not Such A Fairy-Tale
If people admire “love” as much as they pretend, why then was Camilla Parker-Bowles so reviled? We now know that she was the woman Prince Charles really wanted all his life, but was initially prevented from espousing by the British Constitution. They continued to love one another and repaired the error in late middle age, […]
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The Musical Banks
Geoffrey Miller’s idea that the motor of human evolution is sexual selection for charm and wit has its limitations. For there is no pick-up line so corny that it will not be effective in the mouth of a tall, handsome, well-dressed man, and there is no conversation so intelligent that it will not sound pathetic […]
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Unregard Me, Sir!
Given that women generally possess an insatiable appetite for being found attractive, why are they so often indignant when ugly men approach their candle-flames? Just as in the US “driving while black” is a notorious felony, so too is “fancying women while being unattractive” an offence against social mores; though disguised under the name of […]
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Symbiosis
When boys and girls pair off as best friends, you generally get a pretty one and a plain one, or a hunk and a nerd. This is a symbiotic relationship like that of sharks and the small fish who clean their teeth. What the pretty one gets is a good contrast background against which to […]
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Mellowing Out
One definition of a dork or social incompetent is surely somebody who does not fall in with the agreed pretences about what is actually going on. Let us take as an example the scene in Annie Hall with Paul Simon as a major player in California. He purrs about going somewhere with the Woody Allen […]
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John The Baptist In The Pit Stop
There are four modes or levels of not getting the person you want. First, unattainability pure and simple. Second, she is unattainable but wants to be your “friend” and tell you all about her love-life every week. Third, add that she somehow manages to arrange things so that you always seem to come upon her […]
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Eros, Psyche And The GiB
It has been observed, by richly experienced persons, that both men and women who know that they are beautiful are usually lousy in bed. They have no reason to exert themselves to please a sex partner, since they consider that they please sufficiently by existing, and every day prove this to their own satisfaction by […]
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The Divine Sword
I no longer remember where, but I once encountered the dictum that women see themselves as “divine swords against all traitors to Beauty”. Schopenhauer taught us that whenever a wife has a child with someone other than her husband, she is serving the interests of the species. Her instincts drive her to breed from the […]
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