Archive for the ‘The Nature Of Frigidity’ Category
Given Over To The Ride
Since in either sex the orgasm involves a certain loss of mastery, it might seem intuitive that the inability to achieve orgasm might be related to a fundamental refusal of each and any experience where one is not totally in control. Perhaps the classic example of such an experience is the roller-coaster ride. One is […]
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The Payoff From Non-Promiscuity
Through much of history it has been considered that chastity, modesty and sometimes even frigidity are the female norms, anchored in something called Nature, and that women’s sleeping around is therefore the thing that needs to be explained. In our own time, some brave souls have stood this on its head and treated women’s not […]
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The Pay-Off From Pretended Frigidity
When the earnest young Evangelical ladies of the mid-19th century started berating men for being cynical libertines Who Only Wanted One Thing (or Objectified Women, in today’s jargon), we may wonder whether this was one part adolescent rebellion against their own Regency-buck fathers and Vauxhall-Gardens mothers, one part genuine religious and social idealism, and one […]
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The Cruelties Of Fidelity And Frigidity Testing
It did not need popular sociobiology to teach us that females play “hard to get” in order to test male commitment; although not all women have followed the script, enough have done so for this to be one of the things that “everybody has always known”. Under the old dispensation, the idea seemed to be […]
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Ann Hedonia And Her Weapon Of Relationship Destruction
It makes no evolutionary sense for the female orgasm to be a thing of difficulty. The things that genes manufacture in order to perpetuate themselves – known to biologists as “phenotypes” and to laymen as “people” – require rewarding for the performance of the reproductive act. Given that the suffering involved in reproduction is greater […]
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Zero-Sum Economics
The primary aim of many Northern women appears to be not so much their own liberation but the minimisation of male sexual pleasure. For the zero-sum thinker, you see, there is only so much pleasure in the world, or in any subsystem thereof. It follows that all your partner’s pleasure is debited to your own […]
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The Miserific Vision
In Simon Montefiore’s history of the Romanovs and once again in his biography of Grigory Potemkin, I encountered the story that Catherine the Great had two éprouveuses, or quality-testers of her lovers. That the French found it necessary to have such a word may tell us something about them, or at least about the court […]
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